I don’t know who first discovered this wonderful way to dissect the word “Intimacy” however, I absolutely love how revealing and truthful it is: “Intimacy=Into+Me+See.”
Intimacy is not just about what you say or do with one another (words and actions) it’s about feeling and how you feel in the company of one another; the energy of one another and the energy you co-create with one another, connecting through openness by feeling safe with one another. Intimacy is about the me, the you, and the US.
Being known for who we really are and the other person being known for who they really are=intimacy.
Although there are many levels of emotional intimacy that can be experienced between two people in relationship, today for my “Heart Connection Blog” I am writing about Intimacy with you!
In other words, emotional intimacy with yourself, which is essential as an ongoing, expansive foundation before you step into a relationship and throughout a relationship with another person, as you explore intimacy with another.
Intimacy with another, is allowing s/he to “into, me, see” you, and you “into, me, see” him or her.
Whereas emotional intimacy with yourself is “into, me, see” within you and by you.
Emotional intimacy with yourself is essential because it is the foundation for love with another. For example, you must have self-love and self-trust with yourself before you can offer love and trust to another person.
Emotional intimacy with yourself is essential because it’s about getting to know yourself on a deep level, and self-knowledge is all-powerful because when you know Who You Are you can be “Authentic” so that you are true to yourself in every way, honoring your feelings and emotions and never abandoning yourself.
From self-knowledge blooms self-trust along with confidence, self-trust directs every choice you make because you then feel you know what’s best for you in your life.
Self-trust blasts through fears because you realize no matter what happens as an outcome to your choices, you trust your choices, and that you will ensure that you thrive no matter the outcome.
Inner-strength is developed and you can feel “safe” within, so that you always ‘have your back.’
Conversely, lack of self-knowledge directs every choice you don’t make (meaning because you don’t know yourself well you are indecisive which leaves the choice (your choices about your life) by default, up to someone else) which sadly grows self-distrust within you.
The ‘umbrella’ of emotional intimacy also covers self-acceptance—regardless of what you see when you get to know yourself intimately, you love yourself without ‘conditions’—unconditional self-love, which brings self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is fostered by forgiveness of yourself which can come with the reframe that you forgive yourself for how you’ve misunderstood yourself in the past, for what you didn’t know about yourself which now you are learning.
In what areas of your life have you noticed are an indication that you need to have more emotional intimacy with yourself?
Copyright © 2016 by Zoe Summer. Zoe Summer is an inspirational author and empowering speaker who teaches people how to live life to its fullest, and is known as "The Feel Great Expert." Zoe Summer is also the Author and Artist of the book "YOU ARE ENOUGH: 30 Mini Mantras for Self-Transformation, Be Empowered, Enlightened, and Inspired” available on Amazon. To learn about personal development: Subscribe to her “Heart Connection Blog” and visit her online: http://www.ZoeSummer.com.