How does a person forgive?
I have studied many accounts of what anyone would judge as horrific events yet the person who was facing the choice of forgiveness was able to forgive.
Many of the people said it was their belief in a Higher Power that helped them to forgive.
However, what I found was that the actual turning point when people forgave in the majority of these accounts was when they realized that the unbearable pain they felt from lack of forgiveness was only hurting themselves not the perpetrator.
Forgiveness is not condoning what someone did, it is freeing yourself from the emotional and mental suffering from lack of forgiveness and the negative effects that holding on to a grievance and grudge has on you physically.
Yet, forgiveness isn’t always about forgiving another person. There can be times in an individual’s life that something happens where he or she feels they could have made a different choice or could have done better in some way— they feel shame, and they are facing the need to forgive—the need to forgive themselves.
Whether it’s the need to forgive another person or yourself, it is through your ability to love yourself more than the holding onto lack of forgiveness that is the key that opens the door to solace.
Your self-love must be stronger than the need to be right or prove someone else wrong.
After all, how does not forgiving serve you?
It does not!
Yet forgiveness serves you fully!
Because in the healing powers and myriad benefits of forgiveness and compassion for yourself you release the past so you can experience love and happiness fully in the present and into the future.
Once you have forgiven someone else and/or yourself, you experience inner-peace, and happiness is a possibility again. In addition, your energetic vibration rate rises and your heart opens more fully increasing your capacity to love: to love yourself, to love others and to more fully experience the feeling of receiving love.
Some time ago, I met a woman who told me that her son had committed suicide and that it took her “five years to forgive him.”
She explained that on the fifth year after his death—on his birthday she forgave him—later that same day she unexpectedly received a gift from a friend who happened to have the exact first name of her beloved, deceased son.
It was a bouquet of yellow roses.
After placing the yellow roses in a vase, she was inspired to look up the spiritual symbolism of yellow roses, and learned that one of the significant meanings is “Forgiveness.”
I will never forget what she said next: “Every year since then magically on my son’s birthdate, somehow and always through very unusual circumstances I receive either yellow roses or something that has a picture of a yellow rose, I know it’s him reaching me.”
Copyright © 2017 by Zoe Summer. Zoe Summer is an inspirational author and empowering speaker who teaches people how to live life to its fullest, and is known as "The Feel Great Expert." Zoe Summer is also the Author and Artist of the book "YOU ARE ENOUGH: 30 Mini Mantras for Self-Transformation, Be Empowered, Enlightened, and Inspired” available on Amazon. To learn about personal development: Subscribe to her “Heart Connection Blog” and visit her online: http://www.ZoeSummer.com.